Do's and Don'ts
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Do's and Don'ts
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DO's and DONT'sHere at 2Wives.com, the vehicle for arriving at a juncture in life where you are standing face to face, talking with the new woman in your relationship is - your first E-Mail reply to her ad! E-Mail, being a "sort" of letter, requires a few special basic considerations for it to accomplish quickly and accurately it's purpose of getting you into the coveted relationship, one having two wives.
We all love to get personal e-mail. Especially so when you are waiting for "Personal Ad" e-mails. Lightning fast, clear, and immediate food for the soul is available at any moment, 24 hours a day . . .all the time. Most personal ads don't get responses though. Only 15% get responses, and most of those are single women's ads. The skills and abilities of couples seeking and single men seeking must be used to the maximum when writing their ads. You must have everything going for you that you can. Here are a few suggestions that will improve your chances of getting e-mail from your ad and responses from ads you have replied to.
We are not kidding here. Do not bother single women with replies that say nothing more than, "I am a male, I am tall, and I would like you to write me." Bothering single women makes them drop their ads. Thoughtless letters forwarded to single women will ruin our credibility. For everyone's sakes, we only want replies that have some substance for the single woman to consider. It is so simple to use the 5 "W's" gentlemen.
Just to back this suggestion up, here is a quote we received: "Thanks for the wonderful service you are providing. I re-read your "do's and don'ts" and absolutely agree about the part where you advise the men to basically bug out. I tried communicating directly (along with my wife) and not only wasn't it effective, it was very stressful for me! My Wife, on the other hand, has handled it very well. So the lesson to me is clear: bug out, let the wife handle it! Just like you said! Duh! I'm glad I discovered this right at the outset so I can spare myself a lot of grief later on."
Do not try to bypass the system - very devastating to your results. It's the fastest way to tell a single woman to not trust you. If you show her that you are trying to sneak around or bypass the 2Wives.com system, you show her that you are "sneaky." She will run from you as fast as she can - and she should! So, when sending replies to single women's ads, do not send any email address but your new Member's email address @ Pro-Polygamy.NET. If a single woman replies to your email to her, she should only be sending that email to that special address. (If you develop a relationship later, then that is when you can exchange other email addresses, but not until then.) We advise women to fully ignore all emails that come to them asking them to reply back to some email address other than that Member's user address @ Pro-Polygamy.NET. Also, do not join as a new 2Wives.com Member, to send off a quick letter to all the single-women's ads, and then promptly quit. Not only will that reduce the amount of replies back you might get, but it also will tell the single women that you were not really serious about your search. Think about it. Do you realize what that says to a single woman? It screams, "I am so cheap and am so not-serious about searching for a special woman, that I expect results immediately and I do not care about anything but myself. If I ever marry a second wife, I don't care about sites like 2Wives.com working to support my polygamy rights." If you could so openly tell her that, it also tells her that you wuld treat her that way too. So, don't do it! Let her know you really are serious and "in it for the long-term." In all stories of life, the self-only and short-term-thinking men never "get the girl" anyway. Here's a tip... There's a reason why we also have polygamous families who remain current 2Wives.com Members even through they already have more than wife! Something to think about!
Hello "Single Woman", Thank you so much for trusting us and placing your ad here at 2Wives.com. We will do our best to find you the right people. (or, thank you for using our services and we forwarded your ad reply) Because you are a single woman, be sure to keep us informed of what is going on with the replies you receive from your ad (or replies you send) here. These are seasoned, experienced people that use this site. Extremely serious about their search. We are your "sounding board" for decisions you make. Always use us. . . Use us so that you don't find yourself being used. We do insist on the very best for you, "Single Woman". We will only place your ad in the members segment only and see what happens. You will receive lots of mail. Be sure to write each one back and just say, "Thank you for writing, but I am looking for a different set of circumstances. Thank you." Folks appreciate at least some acknowledgement. . .just like you do. Keep one fact in mind - always. You have the power here. Single women place an ad and are so afraid that no one will write them. They feel they are ugly. They are afraid they won't find a relationship. Nonsense. You have the power here. . .relax and smell the roses. Negative thoughts or perceptions about yourself are as far from the truth as possible around here. Folks will break a leg writing you. You are the elusive sisterwife. So rare in our society. You will receive tons of offers for being "wined and dined". They will offer you their home, living and school support, a new car. It goes on and on. My point is, take your time. Do not feel that you are the "underdog". They are frantic. You don't need to be because you have the power here. We at 2Wives.com take very seriously your well being through this search you have started. Our site is a trusted site for women. Not perfect, but better than almost all other "personals" sites. We watch what is going on with regards to this "Personals" site. We have found that replies you receive from the husband, rather than from the wife, are to be "listened" to closely. We stress that the wife write to and find her sisterwife, not the husband. This works better than the husband writing you and then saying to his wife, "I found this other woman I want to have a marriage relationship with." Very rude for him to do to you and his wife. Watch out for this one. "Run for your life" if you find yourself talking with the husband and not his wife. Something is very wrong with this picture. Here are some ideas for your handling this dilemma of lots of reply mails. And, of course, you can alter, change, or add to our ideas all you want. Keep in mind that you can do everything possible to be honest and sincere. Everything. . .and the relationship you decide on can still sink, 2 days into it. There are no clear answers. Thus, our pounding the point, don't hurry, take your time. Take your time. Take your time. You have nothing to loose with, "Taking your Time." 1) People appreciate your honesty in telling and sending them a "Yes or No" return letter. (This will make handling your mail much easier.) Do not be concerned about who you will hurt and who you won't. They appreciate that you are trying to embark on an important life long mission. You have to "nip this in the bud" now or possibly forever suffer the consequences. Consequences for you and for the persons whom you were "nice" to and in the long run, harmed their lives along with devastating yours. You don't want to hurt others; you are not in that position. You are in the position of presenting the best opportunity to a couple that they will have in their entire life. . .and yours too. It's magical in some ways. 2) Be up-front. Tell those you are writing that you are going to work with 20 (for example) families at the same time and probably take a year to make a choice. Anyone who is on a different time schedule can opt to - butt out. Several will do just that, saying - no way. (Just some more examples) 3) Write many letters to those you think might work out. This process will bring about more people who it won't work out with and closer to those who it will work out with. If you see it won't work out, that is good. Why try a relationship that won't work. Finding out ahead of time is good, not bad. If you can see it won't work, just say that your feelings say, "it won't work". 4) And, we are sorry to say this. Exchange pictures. Sometimes this will "weed out" some people. We know that looks are a small part of a relationship: but, on initial beginnings, you can rule out certain folks. That's life. . .if the chemistry doesn't work, it just, "isn't going to fly." 5) Phone calls. . .on their
nickel, unless you are well to do. This is an excellent way to
eliminate some of the candidates. Do-not-make-any-plans-to 6) Your state of mind. . .there is no need for speed. Take your time. Stop!, and plan on a time schedule. Make your mind up that you are going to take a year to make a move (or 3 months maybe). (We use a year as an example because of the time other single women, with ads, have taken. . .2 weeks or 1 month, and their relationships have failed quickly.) Failure and pain for all - including us. We care for you and watch your search. We want the very best for you. We hate it when you are used, abused, and thrown out in one of these premature meeting deals. . . 7) Be honest here. Honesty will cut through this situation like a hot knife through soft butter.Take your time, lots of time, be honest with yourself and others, and lastly, make your final decision based on how the people you are considering will address your entire personal needs. Social, physical, mental, spiritual, and. . .your children's needs. Wisdom is your counselor here. 8) Pray. Ask God to change persons minds so they create a safe place for you. Pray for the wisdom to contribute more than you thought possible to this search. Prayer is your "flashlight" for those dark places you will find yourself in now and then on relationship seeking terrain. Ok, there you are. Some tips that will definitely lessen your load and give you the "time" to deal with "all your responses." Plus, keep a check on the momentum created when you first decide to "search" for your relationship. Deep waters. . .do not let your dreams sink. We insist on the very best for you, (Single Woman). Write back and keep asking us questions. We like to be of assistance to you. We really care and it is a pleasure to meet you here on the internet highway. See you later our friend. [END of LETTER] As you can see, we really slow them down. Good for you. . . and, good for them. You folks writing replies - take your time too. Just a tip. . . |
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Sign your name in a reply. Use your names
in ads. If you don't want to use your common name, use a nick
name, but use a name. Most of the ads on 2Wives.com will likely not have the person's name
in them. These ads receive about 1/2 the replies of ads with the
person's name in them. Most responses to ads from men, do not
have their name in the letter. Absolutely amazing. If you are
like us, we just do not answer letters without the name
of the person who wrote the letter. If we do, we start it with,
"Dear what ever your name is, . . ."
So what is it that would make a person leave
out such an important item {their name} in such a critical document,
as a reply to their potential new partner for life? Seems odd,
doesn't it? What is their fear? What do they have to fear that
is worth putting their chances for meeting someone in jeopardy?
What's the worst thing that could happen, if they used their name
in an e-mail? Would you reply to a person who is obviously suffering
with fear? Would this person make a good partner for the rest
of your life? Use your name in all correspondence and ads or you
are dead in the water right from the "get go." A person
displaying fear will never make it in the world of 2 wives. They
will eat you alive and spit out the bones.
Responses to ads that say absolutely nothing:
Believe it or not, these responses are quite common; " hi
you sound kute right me." Bordering on being a nuisance,
they actually request the person with the ad to dream up something
to write back. Reading this kind of "gibber," persons
with ads, take these replies and toss them into the fire. When
replying to an ad, if you really want to have an e-mail conversation
with the person, always follow the "5 W's" rule, along
with your name, of course. The 5 w's are, who, what, when,
where, and why or how. For example: "Hello ad# 967, My
name is "Sparkie", I am a thoughtful person. . ., My
interest in having another wife is. . . ., I live in. . ., Because
I am interested in cooking. . ., I see in your ad that you . .
. ., Well, I really would like you to write me and I will send
you a picture. . ., Sincerely yours, Sparkie." Sparkie's
letter would not go into the fire and the person with the ad would
feel at ease, and hopefully write back to, "Sparkie."
Although this is a woman's site for women,
men use the site 4 times more than women, and that is just how
it is. We strongly recommend the following. " The
idea is that the woman or women in your life may offer you a new
partner rather than you, the man, offering the woman a new partner.
"Ads written by the wife, seeking another wife for her husband,
receive the most couple's responses and have tremendous success.
Ads with pictures of the husband and not the wife hardly ever
receive a response. Also, we have a file of pictures consisting
of nude pictures of mostly men that were sent to women's ads.
These presentations of one's self are not appreciated by the women
with ads. These kinds of pictures usually are a turn off in many
ways. For couples, the women need to meet the woman first. The
women need to write the ad. Women can tell if a man or woman wrote
the ad. Women write welcoming ads. ..men tend to write "boring,
oh yea, my wife is all for this idea" ads, me, me, me. If
you think about it, the man has absolutely nothing to do with
the "initial"meeting. He actually gets in the way. Just
some food for thought here men. Listen to your woman/women. Ask
a woman to write the ad. . .
Of course, we expect you to write what ever
you think best for your ad. Truthfully, we have seen no common
denominator with respect to the wording in ads.
You can never figure an ad. We get ads that we all agree
will never get a response and sure enough, a week later, that
ad does indeed receive a response. Amazing. We have noted one
bit of information that is offered in ads that seems to cut a
person's responses to Zero. Body parts requirements, for example,
large bosom, wide thighs, blond hair, etc. And, any bi-sexual announcements are completely unnecessary and really
narrow your e-mail correspondence. The time to expose your body
parts and physical plans is in your personal mails to a person
that writes you. Think about it. Meet the person first, then,
when they ask, tell them of your interest. What is your profit
to go about an international arena, (2Wives.com) shouting that
you like sex. Everybody likes sex. Wouldn't it be more time constructive
to go along the internet highways of the world and shout that
you are, for example, "kind." Or considerate. Or loyal.
Or trustworthy. Or brave. Or reverent. Or, I am just a great person
to know! Save the sex for your personal conversations. Weigh the
profit of announcing in an ad that you like sex. Just a tip. .
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Don't mail letters to a polygamy site from
the computer at your work place. You will be caught. We receive
many letters asking us to not send mail to the address in their
e-mail "Header." Eventually, we will (by mistake, sorry)
or even worse, automatic mailers always send mail to the return
address in the e-mail's Header Information. We receive mail from
irate people telling us that they know who wrote the letter to
us from their machine and if we ever write to their address again
we will meet their attorney and will have very bad luck soon.
Not nice to do to us or yourself. If you must use the machine
at work, learn how to change the "Mail and News" preferences.
Mail and News preferences are located in the top bar on your browser
under the "Options" button. Use your, for example,"HotMail.com"
account or one of the thousands of other free e-mail services
as your return address. Don't forget to change the preferences
back to exactly like they were before or. . .you're busted. Oh,
and do not write responses in all capital letters. It "screams"
at the reader. You can always tell its a male letter if it screams
at you. . .
Do not "Spam" ads. . . . .people with
ads know when you are sending a form letter and will toss it.
(They especially do not want to hear any commcerical advertisements
or anything other than their intended audience to write to them.)
This is a "personals" site, so make every email personal.
If you are writing to all the single women's ads,
which is just fine, at least make sure to personalize and individualize
each and every message. Do not send a "one-message-copied-to-all-ads."
Single women will recognize that and run as far away from it as they can.
Also, make sure that you actually say something to let the
single woman know something about you. Do not send a two-line
email that says something like, "Saw your ad. Write me back."
When a single women gets that kind of ad, she thinks,
"You didn't even give me a reason why I would want to reply!"
Responding to an ad requires you to address
the person you are writing as a real person to or they will not feel any connection.
Otherwise, you will be sending a dead letter that will make the person receiving
it, read your reply with a rolling eye and a mumbling of, "Oh
brother. . .another form letter. . .yuck."
"One last bit of information."
Here is a copy of our "open letter" to single women who place
an ad here at 2Wives.com. This letter will give
you some insight into what the single women are prepared for.
In the past years, we have found that single women tell us everything
if there is any foolishness from those replying to their ad. Here
is the letter: